And this is why this men continue abuse their wifes..because this ladies always forgive and take them back...and also had to do with the fa'asamoa...well that was like way way back back in the days...now days we all been educated well and its the millenium....common now......once he lay a hand on you...just pack your bag and leave....don't take him back when he sweet talk you the next day....because he will doing it again not right aways..but some day he will do it again....and believe me theirs lots of fish in the ocean and one will treat you way better than that looser......anyway...

manuia le weekend Samoa

It's sad to see that happening over and over again because they (men) say they are the "breadwinner" of the family. Gurl, you have to get up and get out!! I grew up in a family like that; I saw my mother being beaten when my father came home in the wee hours of morning, drunk. My mother still has marks of such beatings but she got over it and got out. She stuck with our father in the beginning because of us. They both worked in the Samoa Government with professional careers but their marriage was not perfect. Now, she's at peace despite the fact that our father has become sober and quit back in 1984. My younger siblings don't know a thing about it. I grew up with and in it I learned from it too.

My own life was nearly short-lived because of an abusive partner who wanted nothing but his one and only son from me. I should've have listened and learned from my mother and my past. Yet, I didn't until I was almost ran over by the man. I pursued the case to court where he kept saying he was sorry but I learned from it. He harrassed me @ my work; @ college when I took evening classes; public places during soccer/netball tourneys; etc. It was too much for me to take that I asked for a restraining order which really didn't help. On the day of the trial, he didn't show up. His family had put him on a plane back to Samoa. The judge issued a bench warrant for his arrest (it's still valid) for no-show and contempt plus outstanding alimony payments.

My life is at peace. I don't have to turn my head around just to see if he was following me. My son is all grown up and handsome. He only knows and remembers this man as one who beats his Mommy up. It is not because of alcohol but their ego that they think they own us but they don't. I know he's remarried and he's doing the same thing to that woman who won't leave him. I am glad I made the choice and am living freely; being my own "breadwinner." My family have always been there to help.

remorseful???....i dont think so because for sure he is going to lift that fist again...i feel sorry for the woman and i hope shes alright. for one thing if he was the breadwinner then he should have been saving those cash to feed his family. i for one saw this kind of abuse and i mean seriously its not pretty. women are not punching bags. he shouldnt get a second chance maybe behind bars would teach him a lesson.